A practical, therapist-ready framework to guide disclosures after betrayal
without guesswork or overwhelm.
Guidance you need to lead trauma-informed disclosures
The Clinical Disclosure Toolkit helps you confidently guide clients through betrayal trauma with
Calmness, Clarity and Structure.
Therapist-ready. Best Practices. Use it in your very next session.
With training video included!
Special Pricing of $27!
only through 9/1/2025
I’ve worked with hundreds of betrayed partners and know firsthand how damaging unstructured disclosures can be. This training distills the most effective practices into a therapist-ready format that respects both partners and the process of real repair.
Your Toolkit includes:
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eBook with Disclosure Structure
Your clinical guide to best practices in disclosure of deception and infidelity.
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Disclosure Worksheets
Six Worksheets walking you through essential parts of disclosure.
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Video Training on Disclosures and more!
Readiness, common pitfalls, and why trauma-informed pacing is essential.
Practical Training for Mental Health Therapists Working with Partner Betrayal Trauma
Navigating Disclosure after Betrayal
Main Topics Covered:
Betrayer-Focused Preparation
Integrity and honesty as foundations
Emotional relief from secrecy and shame
"Know your why" before disclosure
Discernment questions (Should I stay or leave?)
Disclosure Preparation Process
Full disclosure steps based on best practice models:
Question submission by betrayed partner
Full written disclosure by betrayer
Reading disclosure in joint session
Impact letter by betrayed partner
Restitution letter by betrayer
Reasons Why Betrayers Often Lie
Fear of consequences
Shame avoidance
Attempting to protect others
Desire to preserve the relationship
Manipulation and control (coercive abuse)
Gaslighting tactics (denial, blame-shifting, minimization, etc.)
Gaslighting and Integrity Abuse Disorder (IAD)
Chronic deception and compartmentalization
Secret sexual-relational realities (DCSRs)
Psychological domination and covert abuse systems
Omar Minwalla's framework on relational betrayal and integrity abuse
Impact on the Betrayed Partner
Long-term trauma exposure from multiple disclosures
Disintegration of ego and identity
Loneliness, isolation, and disconnection
Diminished capacity to feel nurtured or loved
Trauma-Informed Clinical Framework
Emphasis on safety first
Assessment of nervous system regulation before proceeding
Validating the betrayed partner’s perception and experience
Avoiding re-traumatization through poorly structured disclosures
Clinical Takeaways
Full Therapeutic Disclosure is not a single session
Each step must be intentional, paced, and therapist-facilitated
Therapists must not enable manipulation or minimize abuse
The goal is restoration of safety, clarity, and integrity
You’ll get access to my eBook, Worksheets, and Video!
Before and After The Clinical Disclosure Bundle
Before After
Not sure how to structure a disclosure session
Worrying about retraumatizing the betrayed partner
Wondering what to say when clients ask, “Should I tell them everything?”
Avoiding the topic of full disclosure altogether
Relying on instinct or patchwork advice
Confidently lead with a clear, trauma-informed process
Equipped with pacing strategies and prep worksheets that protect both partners
Guided by best practices and clinician directions that reduce guesswork
Empowered to approach it with calmness, clarity, and ethical structure
Backed by a proven framework and therapist-ready tools
Hi! I’m LaDonna!
Why Learn from Me?
I'm LaDonna Carey, MA — a betrayal trauma therapist with nearly four decades of clinical experience. Since earning my Master’s in Clinical Psychology from East Tennessee State University in 1989, I’ve worked with individuals and couples navigating the emotional wreckage of infidelity, deception, and relational betrayal.
Over the years, I’ve seen how easily disclosures can go wrong — and how powerful they can be when done right. I created The Clinical Disclosure Toolkit to give therapists what I wish I had early in my career: a straightforward, trauma-informed process that centers safety, integrity, and emotional pacing.
My work includes intensives for betrayed partners and couples, a betrayal healing workbook used internationally, and continuing education programs to fill the betrayal-specific gaps most therapists were never trained for. Whether you're new to this work or refining your skills, you're welcome here.
Let’s raise the standard for how disclosures are done — together.
FAQs
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This training is for licensed therapists, counselors, and mental health professionals working with clients impacted by infidelity, deception, or relational trauma. Whether you work with individuals or couples, these tools are designed to help you confidently support trauma-informed disclosures without improvising or second-guessing.
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Not at all. While the content aligns with betrayal trauma best practices, you don’t need to be a CSAT or APSATS-trained therapist. This toolkit was created to support any clinician who wants a clear, ethical, and effective structure for disclosures. If you’re committed to doing no harm, this is for you.
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Yes. The toolkit includes preparation questions and therapist guidance that work well for clients in discernment or ambivalence. It helps create safety and integrity, regardless of the relationship’s outcome.
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No. Many disclosures happen in individual therapy, especially in early stages. The worksheets and guidance are designed to help you work with individual clients preparing for disclosure, and can also be used in couples sessions when both partners are ready to engage.
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You can begin using the tools immediately. The pace depends on the client’s readiness, emotional capacity, and the complexity of the betrayal. Some disclosures can be prepared in 2–3 sessions; others may require more support. The toolkit is flexible enough to meet clients where they are.
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Not at this time. While this training is built for clinical use, CE hours are not currently included. We’re exploring CE options for future trainings. Be sure to join the mailing list for updates
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This isn’t a rushed or reactive confession. The Clinical Disclosure Toolkit guides you and your clients through a step-by-step process emphasizing pacing, emotional preparation, and clarity — all grounded in trauma-informed principles. The goal is to reduce harm, not add to it. My goal is that you will gain confidence in using best practice strategies in disclosure.
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Yes. If the betraying partner is still actively lying, abusive, or not committed to full truth-telling, structured disclosure may not be safe yet. This toolkit assumes some level of readiness, accountability, and therapeutic support.
What pairs well with The Clinical Disclosure Toolkit?
Sharpen Your Betrayal Trauma Therapy Skills
Join my therapist community for bite-sized clinical tips and live monthly Zoom sessions—so you never feel alone with complex cases.
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Quick Takes
Bi-Weekly Quick Takes
Short, actionable 5–15 minute trainings you can use today with clients facing partner betrayal trauma. -
Monthly Deep Dives
Live 45-minute Zoom calls with real clinical scenarios, skill-building discussion, and Q&A time with LaDonna Carey, MA, Betrayal Trauma Specialist.
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Why Therapists Join:
✔ Real-life tips for hard-to-navigate sessions
✔ Ongoing education without the overwhelm
✔ Support from a trusted guide in betrayal trauma work
✔ Access to a peer community that gets it
Come to Kona with me!
I’m speaking at Aloha Summits October 16-18 and you should come play in Hawaii with us!
16 Approved CE's
Our CE credits are APA and NBCC approved, covering Psychologists, LCSWs, LMFTs, LPMHCs, LPCCs, LMHCs, and Substance Abuse Counselors. Please confirm coverage with your state’s licensing board.
We partner with CE-go to help make getting your CE's a smooth process. They will hold your CE's for up to 7 years post Summit.
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