Healing From Betrayal as we Gather the Pieces of Our Heart
Finding Me Through ‘23: Reclaiming Your Self
after Betrayal or Divorce
Gathering Our Hearts is a on-line support/educational group where you can connect with a community rebuilding from divorce and betrayal while traveling the pathway to reclaiming your Self.
On next group program Finding Me Through ‘23! is opening and will meet March-December 2023!
‘What just happened?’ ‘Is this real?’ ‘What do I do now?
Discovering betrayal or experiencing an unexpected divorce brings a storm of different emotions:
disbelief, confusion, self-doubt, anger, sadness, and profound emotional pain.
Betrayal is like a tornado ripping through your home, uprooting all the security and stability you've known as a spouse and partner.
An unexpected divorce uproots our lives in the same way.
With little warning, your life was turned upside down, violently shaken, and slammed around in pure chaos. You may have been unable to think clearly in the aftermath.
Whether the betrayal was through infidelity (affairs, hook-up sites, pornography/prostitution), substance abuse and addiction, financial irresponsibility, abandonment, or escalating verbal/emotional abuse, you find yourself asking : "What just happened?" and "How did I get here?".
Does any of this sound like your story?
Searching through the debris of the life you had only a short while ago, you found yourself even more off-balance and confused by your partner's responses.
You may have questioned what was even real when listening to their denial and lies. Watching their meltdowns, mood swings, and fits of anger may have had you walking on eggshells.
Their lack of explanation or their disappearance may have left your head swimming.
As you watched in disbelief, the person you knew as your partner became a stranger as they rewrote the betrayals to protect themselves.
It literally hurt to realize that there was little regard for how the betrayal impacted you. Someone you had counted on for protection was no longer safe.
You may have felt unimportant, devastated and embarrassed while your self-worth and self-esteem were battered alongside your heart.
Rejection and abandonment created feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. The injustice of it all may have caused you to be enraged.
With all the changes forced upon you, the intensity of the emotions may have felt like you sometimes lost your mind.
You were thrown into a land where nothing made sense anymore. Then, the unwanted reality became clear that you must gather the scattered pieces of your life and rebuild on your own.
You’re not alone! Come travel with others who are picking up the pieces and reclaiming their lives!
Your Pathway to Growth and
Reclaiming your Self
March-December 2023!
Finding Me Through 23! is an on-line educational and support program that includes webinars, Zoom discussions, ‘Grow Through’ Book Club and a private Facebook page for connection and community!
Whether you have been impacted by betrayal that resulted in divorce or have chosen to stay in your relationship, Finding Me Through ‘23 will provide you with a blueprint to help you along your journey of rebuilding.
Here’s what you’ll get!
My Webinar series of 20 pre-recorded lessons delivered to your inbox (one every two weeks) along with worksheets and journal prompts focused on coping and moving forward from betrayal, divorce, abandonment, loneliness, grief and much more on rebuilding our lives.
Self Assessments Understand your individual style of grief, attachment, coping and self care.
Group Support over Zoom twice monthly (March-December alternating Sundays 7-8 EST or Wednesdays at 7-8 PM EST)
Invitation to Join Our Facebook Community: Access to our private, members-only Facebook group for you to connect, ask questions, discuss webinars, and support one another when you just need someone who understands.
LIVE Q&A Sessions weekly in our Facebook group about the webinars or worksheets.
BONUS: Fifth Friday ‘Grow Through’ Book Club! We’re going to add some great books to our discussions as we Grow Through 2023! We’ll talk some about the books in our Facebook page and then have discussions of the books over Zoom happy hour!
June 30 Self Love Workbook for Women
September 29 Self Compassion
December 29 Radical Acceptance
First Access Opportunity to LaDonna’s Webinars/Retreats: I have a RETREAT in the plans for us! Stay tuned!
$39.70
Option One
Ten Monthly Payments of $39.70 for:
20 Pre-recorded Webinars/Worksheets
2 Zoom Calls Each Month
3 Fifth Friday Book Club Meetings
$397.00
Option Two
One Time Payments of $397.000 for:
20 Pre-recorded Webinars/Worksheets
2 Zoom Calls Each Month
3 Fifth Friday Book Club Meetings
Hi, I’m LaDonna and I know the ugliness of betrayal .
The smile you see on my face is genuine now.
In pictures of the past, you could see the pain and worry in my face, even through the smile.
I’m a psychotherapist and have specialized training in treating Partner Betrayal Trauma from porn/sex compulsion and addictions.
My ‘Lifequake’ started when I picked up “the” credit card statement from the table…I knew what I was seeing when the names of websites and the charges there in black and white in front of me. It took me a few minutes to catch my breath. That moment was a turning point in my life.
I lived through all of the emotions that being betrayed by a partner brings: disbelief, confusion, self-doubt, anger, sadness, and pain.
The grief of divorce and the trauma of betrayal are personal experiences that I have survived and, actually, grown through as I re-built my life. This growth inspired my book club name Grow Through!
There is Post-Traumatic Growth.
I’m a strong believer that we can, and will, pick ourselves up and move forward when we have the right knowledge and direction.
With a heart for your healing, I created a pathway to recovery for you that is loaded with strategies that help you heal. I’m honored to shine the light for you each step of the way.
I welcome you to join us in Finding Me in ‘23! Together, in our community, we will create your path to a strong, courageous and authentic version of your Self.
“I don’t know who I am anymore.”
Has life shaken your sense of worth?
Caused you to question your value?
Have important parts of your identity been disrupted?
Join me to strengthen your Self and create the
2023 Version of your SELF
“The Real gift of investing in your Self is being able to go anywhere without the fear of getting lost. Even when we have no idea where we are or where we’re going, with the right map, we can find our way back to our heart and our truest self. ”
Your Growth begins on March 19th!
Directions to Your Self!
“Finding Me Through ‘23!” takes you through ‘23 and into ‘24 with a new sense of Self!
The in depth study includes:
20 Webinars Pre-Recorded for your convenience and delivered to your inbox every two weeks
Two Monthly Group Support Sessions over Zoom (March-Dec)
(One Sunday at 7-8 PM EST and one Wednesday 7-8 PM EST)
A Book Club with Three “Fifth Friday” Book Discussions
(Self Love Workbook for Women, Radical Acceptance and Self Compassion)
Private Facebook Group for you to discuss webinars, worksheet content and Book Club while sharing in a community of others healing from betrayal
Question and Answer sessions along with Ask Me Anything meetings!
Check out the 20 webinar topics below! Each webinar will be 30-60 minutes long with a deep dive into how these areas are impacted by betrayal and strategies that light your way to ‘Grow Through’ and move forward with your life.
Individually priced
Finding Me Through ‘23
would be valued at well over $1000
(Each webinar is valued individually at $57+)
I’m offering this package at a special price until March 19
Bundle Package $397
Increases to $495.00 on March 20
Includes all of the webinars, Zoom meetings, Book Club Discussion and Facebook Group
Payment Options
One Time Payment of $397.00
Ten Monthly Payments of $39.70
Healing from Betrayal and Divorce Recovery
COURSE BREAKDOWN
MODULE 1 Reassessing
Find Your Authentic Self
Self Assessment
Personality Style
What is Self Love?
Embrace Your Self
Four Webinars and Zoom Discussions
MODULE 2
Rebuilding
Strengthening Your Self
Self Esteem
Self Awareness
Self Worth
Self Respect
Four Webinars and Zoom DIscussions
MODULE 3
Resetting
Impact of Betrayal/Divorce
Loneliness and Grief
Guilt and Shame
Resentment and Anger
Trusting Your Self
Four Webinars and Zoom Discussions
MODULE 4
Realigning
Self Communication
Self Compassion
Mindful Compassion
Compassion Assertiveness
Boundaries and Compassion
Four Webinars and Zoom Meetings
MODULE 5
Restarting
Moving Forward
Putting The Pieces Together
Who Am I Now?
Acceptance and Commitment Theory
R.A.I.N.
Four Webinars and Zoom Meetings
BONUS: Fifth Friday Book Club
On the Fifth Friday we will Zoom together to discuss the Book of the Quarter! You’ll read and work on these independently, discuss in our Facebook group and then connect live on 5th Friday!
June 30th Self Love for Women Workbook
September 29 Self Compassion
December 29 Radical Acceptance
Each module will have four pre-recorded webinars that you can view at your convenience!
These five modules are each pieces of the map that will help you create the next steps of your life!
Assessing what you need individually right now to move forward and comfort your heart
Discovering more of who you are now after the ‘Lifequake”
Strengthening skills to navigate through the transitions in your life
Identifying the emotional impact on you and providing strategies to navigate through the hurt and frustration
Learn what Self Compassion is and why it is necessary in healing from life upheavals
Crafting your personal blueprint to rebuild your life and transition to a New Beginning with your plan in place
Meet others who are traveling along with you-the journey is not as long if you are not traveling alone!
$39.70
Option One
Ten Monthly Payments of $39.70 for:
20 Pre-recorded Webinars/Worksheets
2 Zoom Calls Each Month
3 Fifth Friday Book Club Meetings
$397.00
Option Two
One Time Payments of $397.000 for:
20 Pre-recorded Webinars/Worksheets
2 Zoom Calls Each Month
3 Fifth Friday Book Club Meetings
Let’s get started with moving forward to create a peaceful, content and satisfying life.
Can you imagine yourself:
Grieving the losses of your relationship so you can move forward in your life and leave the hurt, bitterness and anger behind?
Managing the damage of betrayal and divorce with techniques crafted for your particular personality style that strengthen how you care for yourself and build resiliency?
Feeling confident and secure in who you are with an internal self worth that can’t be shattered by others?
Identifying ways to manage overwhelming emotions so that you feel more in control of yourself and your reactions to others?
Knowing yourself so well that you understand why you are making all of those choices and find the inner voice that directs you to make good decisions to care for yourself?
Looking into the mirror knowing your worth and trusting that you can create boundaries that will protect your value?
Rebuilding your new world as a place where you are peaceful, safe and content where your needs are important and respected?
I’d love to welcome you into Gathering Our Hearts where we will grow and transition our lives and our Self into a carefully crafted mosaic from the pieces of our lives.
Come ‘Grow Through’ With Us!
What others have said…
Is this program right for me?
Finding Me in ‘23! is focused on assessing the impact that betrayal/divorce has had on your self-concept, offering steps to reclaim your Self and a direction in rebuilding your life after your ‘Lifequake’.
This program is right for you if:
You are ready to learn more about how losses impacts us differently based on the unique needs of our personality.
You are ready to find yourself. Many of us lose ourself as we are giving to our partner and may forget who we are individually. Answering ‘Who am I now?’ and regaining trust in your decision-making is critical in determining the new beginnings in your future.
You want strategies on how to identify and manage the current emotional impact of the losses you’ve had.
You want to move forward and rebuild but you don’t know where to start.
You’d like some companions along the way who are on the same journey.
You feel a pull inside of you that knows you need some direction and you are ready to focus on your recovery from broken promises and shattered dreams.
This Program is not right for you if:
You are seeking therapeutic interventions for depression, anxiety or PTSD, or another mental health symptom that would be provided by a licensed clinician. This group could be a good companion as you seek treatment on an individual basis with your therapist. Talk with your therapist about this program and decide if you are ready for the education and support that this program will provide.
You want to address how your past or childhood has a role to play in your current status. This is the role of therapy, which I highly encourage as there is such wonderful understanding and knowledge to be gained in a relationship with a good therapist. This program doesn’t look at your past or childhood, it works with who you are now and ways to learn new skills that can help you right now!
You are looking for individual sessions. I have designed this program to provide the benefits of group support and growth.
Your emotions are so strong that you often feel flooded or unable to interact with others from the intensity of your pain. Finding a therapist who specializes in Betrayal Trauma and Divorce Recovery could be very helpful for you. We’ll be here waiting when you have navigated through the crisis stage and are ready for the rebuilding!
Finding Me Through ‘23
Here’s the plan:
A self study program to guide the transition of your Battered Self to a Restored Self
20 Webinars that will deepen the self exploration of the impact of betrayal and guide you in restoring your Self-Worth, Self-Confidence and Self-Compassion (recorded for your convenience)
Two Monthly Zoom support calls for you to discuss the webinars (One Sunday at 7-8 PM EST and one Wednesday 7-8 PM EST)
Worksheets emailed to you with strategies to help you find your Authentic Self and internal peace, even when your world is challenging
A Private Facebook Page for additional Q&A Sessions and connection with other group members; a place to support one another on your journey
First access and discount codes for other Recovery and Growth Services (I have a RETREAT for us that’s in the planning stages!)
Starts March 19. 2023!
This is your time to take care of your Self and begin the journey of healing and transformation as you create the life you deserve!
Close your eyes again and imagine the life that you would like to create and live in everyday.
See yourself:
replacing loneliness with relationships and finding contentment in being your own great companion
erasing embarrassment or shame and being filled with self confidence and self worth
no longer carrying the pain of grief and loss and moving to a peaceful acceptance
releasing resentment and anger and carrying the satisfaction of letting go and moving on
living a life of happiness, fulfillment and contentment from learning about who you are, enhancing your strengths and using your strategies to manage your struggles
You will created a Self that knows who you are, what you want and has the confidence to carry on with your head held high!
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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As a self study course, you will be working through these webinars in the privacy of your home. No Self- disclosure is required or expected. I encourage you to join the Zoom calls or Facebook group to connect with others who are working on their recovery from betrayal.
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You are welcome to join us and participate at the level that you are ready. You can watch the webinars at your own pace and use the material as you are ready. , if you can’t read the book but you want to hear about it,join in on the Book CLub calls! No one in our Gathering Our Hearts group will every pressure you to participate. We are here to meet you where you are in providing support and knowledge that you can access as you are ready.
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Gathering Our Hearts is a program that expects respect for one another at all times. That includes no screenshots, no sharing outside of the group, as well as no critical, judgemental or shaming interactions. If there are violations, they will be addressed and appropriate steps taken for the safety of the group. You can choose your screen name as well as determine how you would like to interact with others. I encourage you to create a separate Facebook page for you interaction in the group as a way to protect your privacy.
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Gathering Our Hearts is a webinar/support program that works to help you navigate the steps to healing from betrayal. People from all beliefs are touched by betrayal. This group focuses on providing the knowledge of the healing tools that will benefit everyone, regardless of religious beliefs.
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Support systems are so important in healing that I believe we all can find benefit in the connection with others. If you would like to be with others who are working to heal from betrayal and rebuild their lives, you are at the right place!
Many women have found that joining a support group is a great adjunct to working with an individual therapist as it gives you a community of women who are accessible, understand your struggles and are eager to connect with and support one another.
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Gathering Our Hearts helps you identify skills that you have and or can develop that will help you pinpoint areas where you can grow while gaining the support of others who are working on the same skills. The information you learn about yourself and through the webinars may be beneficial in helping you and your therapist tailor treatment to your specific needs.
Support groups are highly effective at giving people “in the same boat” a support network. The group members can help people feel less alone with their problem and can also provide a lot of practical problem-solving advice that might help a group member manage their situation more effectively.
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While Gathering Our Hearts does not provide tools for decision making about staying or leaving your marriage, and can use the information on self care and boundary setting in your decision making process. Participating in the group to work on rebuilding your Self, boundaries and healing while you make your decision may benefit you in developing the necessary strength and courage to make the decision that is best for you.
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Finding Me in ‘23! is a program that focuses on moving forward and forging that pathway to the woman and life that you want. Therapy traditionally addresses many of the dynamics that led you to the place you are and the dynamics in your life and relationship that are not working for you. Gathering Our Hearts gives you direction to lead you to where you want to be after you have lived through the betrayal and are ready to build the life you would like to have. So, while it’s not a therapeutic intervention, it can be a wonderful supplement to work that you do with a therapist or after you have completed therapy. IT can continue your Post-Traumatic Growth!
"All healing is first a healing of the heart."
- Carl Townsend
Gathering Our Hearts is a program born from healing hearts that are hurt by betrayal.
If you feel this program is right for you, please join us below!
$39.70
Option One
Ten Monthly Payments of $39.70 for:
20 Pre-recorded Webinars/Worksheets
2 Zoom Calls Each Month
3 Fifth Friday Book Club Meetings
$397.00
Option Two
One Time Payments of $397.000 for:
20 Pre-recorded Webinars/Worksheets
2 Zoom Calls Each Month
3 Fifth Friday Book Club Meetings
You cannot rush the reconstruction of the heart.
-Marissa Donelly
You didn’t deserve the betrayal but you DO deserve the support and restoration of a community of women who are facing the same pain. You deserve direction on how to move forward to the life that will bring you happiness, contentment and pride.
You ARE deserving of a commitment to know your Self better, to learn what makes your tick and the most effective coping skills as your navigate through your obstacles.