Of Course You’re Not Over It!
Healing From Betrayal 30 Days, 30 Ways
A 30‑day experience to help you understand what betrayal does
to the mind and body and begin finding solid ground again.
Begins March 30
30 Days, 30 Ways
Reclaiming Your Self
after Betrayal
If you're not over it, there is a reason.
When betrayal happens, people are often told to move forward quickly. They hear things like "try not to think about it", "focus on the future,” or ‘you need to forgive.”
But betrayal does something deeper to us than most people realize.
It can disrupt your sense of safety, causing your thoughts to keep circling back to what happened, and your body might stay tense or alert.
You may question your own judgment or feel like a part of your identity has been shaken.
This 30‑day program was created to give you a place to begin making sense of that impact. Each day offers one step and one way to help you move through the layers of betrayal to create your pathway to healing.
Your Pathway to Healing and
Reclaiming your Self
March 30-April 29
Of Course You’re Not Over It! is an online educational and support program that includes webinars, Zoom discussions, the 30 Days and 30 Ways ebook, and a private Facebook page for connection and community!
Whether you have been impacted by betrayal that resulted in divorce or have chosen to stay in your relationship, Of Course You’re Not Over It will provide you with a blueprint to help you along your journey of rebuilding.
Here’s what you’ll get!
A 45‑minute kickoff teaching webinar
We begin with a session that explains how betrayal affects the brain, the nervous system, and your sense of reality. Many people feel relief simply understanding why they have been reacting the way they have.
30 Daily Healing Points
Each day, you will receive an email exploring one common response to betrayal, such as intrusive thoughts, anger, grief, self‑doubt, hypervigilance, sleep disruption, and the shattering of identity.
30 daily reflection prompts
Every lesson includes a journal prompt or exercise designed to help you connect the idea to your own experience in a way that feels manageable rather than overwhelming.
30 simple grounding steps
Each day also offers one small action you can take to steady your nervous system, rebuild self‑trust, and respond to the experience with more clarity.
A companion ebook
You will also receive the full written guide so you can revisit the material at your own pace whenever you need it.
BONUS: Facebook members-only group dedicated to Of Course You’re Not Over It
First Access Opportunity to LaDonna’s Webinars/Retreats: I have RETREAT ideas for us! Stay tuned!
‘What just happened?’ ‘Is this real?’ ‘What do I do now?
Discovering betrayal brings a storm of different emotions:
disbelief, confusion, self-doubt, anger, sadness, and profound emotional pain.
Betrayal is like a tornado ripping through your home, uprooting all the security and stability you've known as a spouse and partner.
With little warning, your life may be turned upside down, violently shaken, and slammed around in pure chaos.
You may have been unable to think clearly in the aftermath.
Whether the betrayal was through infidelity (affairs, hook-up sites, pornography/prostitution), substance abuse and addiction, financial irresponsibility, abandonment, or escalating verbal/emotional abuse, you find yourself asking : "What just happened?" and "How did I get here?".
Does any of this sound like your story?
Searching through the debris of the life you had only a short while ago, you found yourself even more off-balance and confused by your partner's responses.
You may have questioned what was even real when listening to their denial and lies. Watching their meltdowns, mood swings, and fits of anger may have had you walking on eggshells.
Their lack of explanation or their disappearance may have left your head swimming.
As you watched in disbelief, the person you knew as your partner became a stranger as they rewrote the betrayals to protect themselves.
It literally hurt to realize that there was little regard for how the betrayal impacted you. Someone you had counted on for protection was no longer safe.
You may have felt unimportant, devastated and embarrassed while your self-worth and self-esteem were battered alongside your heart.
Rejection and abandonment created feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. The injustice of it all may have caused you to be enraged.
With all the changes forced upon you, the intensity of the emotions may have felt like you sometimes lost your mind.
You were thrown into a land where nothing made sense anymore. Then, the unwanted reality became clear that you must gather the scattered pieces of your life and rebuild on your own.
You’re not alone! Come travel with others who are picking up the pieces and reclaiming their lives!
$30.00
30 Days, 30 Ways ebook, emails, and stratgies
Facebook Member Only Group
Two Webinars
Support from other women navigating betrayal
Hi, I’m LaDonna and I know the ugliness of betrayal .
The smile you see on my face is genuine now.
In pictures of the past, you could see the pain and worry in my face, even through the smile.
I’m a psychotherapist and have specialized training in treating Partner Betrayal Trauma from porn/sex compulsion and addictions.
My ‘Lifequake’ started when I picked up “the” credit card statement from the table…I knew what I was seeing when the names of websites and the charges there in black and white in front of me. It took me a few minutes to catch my breath. That moment was a turning point in my life.
I lived through all of the emotions that being betrayed by a partner brings: disbelief, confusion, self-doubt, anger, sadness, and pain.
The grief of divorce and the trauma of betrayal are personal experiences that I have survived and, actually, grown through as I re-built my life. This growth inspired my work in helping others heal from betrayal.
There is Post-Traumatic Growth.
I’m a strong believer that we can, and will, pick ourselves up and move forward when we have the right knowledge and direction.
With a heart for your healing, I created a pathway to recovery for you that is filled with strategies to help you heal. I’m honored to shine the light for you each step of the way.
I welcome you to join us in
Of Course You’re Not Over It!
Together, in our community, we will create your path to a strong, courageous and authentic version of your Self.
What others have said…
Is this program right for me?
Of Course You’re Not Over It! focuses on assessing the impact of betrayal on your self-concept and emotional/physical well-being, offering steps to reclaim your Self and a direction for rebuilding your life after your ‘Lifequake’.
This program is right for you if:
• you keep thinking "I should be further along by now"
• your mind keeps returning to the betrayal
• your body still reacts with tension, anger, or dread
• you question your judgment or feel unlike yourself
• you want guidance that is clear, thoughtful, and trauma informed
• you are looking for something structured that does not overwhelm you
This Program is not right for you if:
You are seeking therapeutic interventions that would be delivered in a mental health setting. This program can be used as a companion to therapy. Talk with your therapist about this program and decide whether you are ready for the education and support it provides.
Finding a therapist who specializes in Betrayal Trauma and Divorce Recovery could be very helpful for you. We’ll be here waiting when you are ready!
"All healing is first a healing of the heart.”
- Carl Townsend
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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As a self study course, you will be working through these webinars in the privacy of your home. No Self- disclosure is required or expected. I encourage you to join the Zoom calls or Facebook group to connect with others who are working on their recovery from betrayal.
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You are welcome to join us and participate at the level that you are ready. You can watch the webinars at your own pace and use the material as you are ready. , if you can’t read the book but you want to hear about it,join in on the Book CLub calls! No one in our Gathering Our Hearts group will every pressure you to participate. We are here to meet you where you are in providing support and knowledge that you can access as you are ready.
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Gathering Our Hearts is a program that expects respect for one another at all times. That includes no screenshots, no sharing outside of the group, as well as no critical, judgemental or shaming interactions. If there are violations, they will be addressed and appropriate steps taken for the safety of the group. You can choose your screen name as well as determine how you would like to interact with others. I encourage you to create a separate Facebook page for you interaction in the group as a way to protect your privacy.
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Gathering Our Hearts is a webinar/support program that works to help you navigate the steps to healing from betrayal. People from all beliefs are touched by betrayal. This group focuses on providing the knowledge of the healing tools that will benefit everyone, regardless of religious beliefs.
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Support systems are so important in healing that I believe we all can find benefit in the connection with others. If you would like to be with others who are working to heal from betrayal and rebuild their lives, you are at the right place!
Many women have found that joining a support group is a great adjunct to working with an individual therapist as it gives you a community of women who are accessible, understand your struggles and are eager to connect with and support one another.
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Gathering Our Hearts helps you identify skills that you have and or can develop that will help you pinpoint areas where you can grow while gaining the support of others who are working on the same skills. The information you learn about yourself and through the webinars may be beneficial in helping you and your therapist tailor treatment to your specific needs.
Support groups are highly effective at giving people “in the same boat” a support network. The group members can help people feel less alone with their problem and can also provide a lot of practical problem-solving advice that might help a group member manage their situation more effectively.
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While Gathering Our Hearts does not provide tools for decision making about staying or leaving your marriage, and can use the information on self care and boundary setting in your decision making process. Participating in the group to work on rebuilding your Self, boundaries and healing while you make your decision may benefit you in developing the necessary strength and courage to make the decision that is best for you.
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Finding Me in ‘23! is a program that focuses on moving forward and forging that pathway to the woman and life that you want. Therapy traditionally addresses many of the dynamics that led you to the place you are and the dynamics in your life and relationship that are not working for you. Gathering Our Hearts gives you direction to lead you to where you want to be after you have lived through the betrayal and are ready to build the life you would like to have. So, while it’s not a therapeutic intervention, it can be a wonderful supplement to work that you do with a therapist or after you have completed therapy. IT can continue your Post-Traumatic Growth!
You cannot rush the reconstruction of the heart.
-Marissa Donelly
You didn’t deserve the betrayal but you DO deserve the support and restoration of a community of women who are facing the same pain.
You deserve direction on how to move forward to the life that will bring you happiness, contentment and pride.